• Eminem Improved My Mental Health

    Yes, that’s what I said. Eminem. Marshall Mathers. Slim Shady. A rapper who I never paid too much attention to in the past because well, my choice in music growing up was a bit different. 😉 Fast forward 10+ years (can’t believe Eminem’s been around so long) and my life gets a little messy in my twenties, then comes recovery from trauma time. Enter antidepressants and therapist. Enter uninvited stigma. Then wholehearted acceptance. I am a Christian and have been one almost all my life. My faith has shaped a lot of who I am, and has been a source of comfort and strength at the most needed times. I…

  • How to Feel Motivated When You’re Feeling Down and Low Energy [PART 3 of 3]

    If you haven’t read Part 1 and Part 2 yet, reading those first may help give some more context before reading  Part 3. Or you can read this first, and if you don’t know what I’m talking about, you can always refer back to the first two parts of this mini “motivation series.” Part 1 stressed that motivation is not necessarily a feeling. To accomplish something, you can’t solely rely on how motivated you feel. Otherwise, chances are, your “momentum” will not last forever and you’ll easily want to quit. Part 2 stressed that on the other hand, sometimes it’s necessary to be a little more forgiving when someone doesn’t feel…

  • Working With What You’ve Got

    Sometimes it’s easy to find yourself wishing for something. Something that you don’t already have – whether it’s something material or something that is physically intangible. I don’t know about you, but I’m guilty of both. To illustrate, I will use myself as an example. Things I’ve wished for include… Material – Warby Parker glasses, Macbook Air, new clothes, new watch, new jewelry, a completely remodeled house, more money, my own designated parking spot at work since parking is impossible unless I get there before 6am or something. Hence I’ve been commuting without my own car this week. Uber to work, train + walking back to home. And yes, Los…

  • Happiness is a Choice

    By the time I hit the “Publish” button it will probably already be the next day, but I still want to say, HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY! <3 (Update: I published this post well after midnight not because I’m a slow writer but because I was multitasking.. or maybe I should say, distracted. And yes I am vindicating myself.) Yes, I emphasize the word “happy” because there is no point in moping about not having a “valentine” on an arbitrary day of the year. There is so much to be happy about if you really think about it. Sure, you may be single or jobless or living in a small place or…

  • My Age

    It’s the number of blog posts I’ve written and it’s also my age. I remember being a teenager and thinking that anyone who is 25 must be a mature adult, and then 25 rolled around. As I look around at my fellow millennials, I wonder how many of them actually feel like “real” adults. I’ve been reading The Defining Decade by Meg Jay and I appreciate so much her smashing of common concepts that have seeped into today’s culture – that “30 is the new 20” and that in this generation we can view our twenties as a freebie decade, a buffer period during which we don’t need to live…

  • Climbing Out of the Hole of Ignorance

    First of all, I found this free groundhog picture online and think it’s so cute and ugly at the same time, and it also fits my title quite well, if I say so myself. According to dictionary.com, the word ignorant means “uninformed; unaware.” I can related to this definition. I’m not sure what happened, but growing up I was never the most informed U.S. citizen. Call me American, or, who knows. I personally don’t really understand the concept that Americans are ignorant, because from my observation, all my co-workers and the ones I interact with seem to always know what’s going on in the world, and it’s like second nature for…

  • Start a Business?

    Recently I’ve been subscribing to blogs of young women who seem similar to me yet have way cooler and successful blogs that have even turned into their own awesome business. There’s something about the whole “do what you love” mantra that kind of hits home for me, but there’s also something scary about it. Probably because I’ve grown up with the view that getting the highest degrees and pursuing the highest paying careers will bring much stability and therefore happiness in life. As a millennial who has struggled much to even just pay for rent, I’ve come to terms with the fact that yes, money is important, because if you…

  • Perspective

    One thing I’ve learned from my significant other that has helped me a lot is the matter of perspective. This has a lot to do with putting yourself in other people’s shoes and trying to understand where others are coming from when their views don’t quite match yours. I’ve considered this matter for a while on and off, and I realize there’s something to be learned from those who tend to be more understanding of others. I’m really thankful to have met a guy who is this kind of person, because it has been a great comfort to me as one who struggles with depression, on and off. The symptoms…

  • Mom

    Today my favorite FedEx delivery person stopped by my work to do her usual mail drop off. Her name is Marilyn and she’s awesome. I would say she’s middle aged (old enough to be my mother), African American, pretty sure she has cornrows, and is always able to make conversation about absolutely anything. Either she comes in and starts talking about something that’s been on her mind, or I tell her something about my weekend or how I’m doing, and she always has something substantial to respond to whatever I say. I really like Marilyn. I feel like we’re friends, even though I’ve only been working here for a little…