• The Most Efficient + Effective Way to Communicate

    Speaking of efficiency… it’s getting late so I’m giving myself a time deadline to finish writing this post… The most efficient and effective way to communicate is really simple actually, but somehow it’s so hard for perhaps most people in the world. It certainly was an ongoing challenge for me for most of my life, but after some experiences I’ve learned a very important lesson about communication, aka how we talk to and express our thoughts and feelings to others. Important lesson learned: Just say exactly what you want. Forget about being a people pleaser, because there will always be some people who aren’t happy with what you say or…

  • My 5-Minute Blog Post on Relationships

    Hi. So it’s late here in LA and I want to go to sleep but I must fulfill my responsibility of writing a blog post so here I am. Relationships. Well I just got out of one at the end of November 2017, and since then I’ve reflected a lot and have had many realizations. I’ve learned a lot. I’ve learned a lot about myself and about males. If you want to be in a successful relationship, you have to have the maturity for it. That means that you have to already have your own adult life in order before getting serious with anyone. Otherwise you enter into an unhealthy…

  • Decision Making: Weighing Out the Pros & Cons

    Last night I went to CVS to pick up my prescription medication only to find out that I got the pharmacy hours wrong. They were already closed, and I still needed to take my medication. I had two options. I could either get very anxious and worried about what my life would look like after not taking my medication for one or two days, and then freak out or have a mini panic attack when technically I was still doing just fine. OR, I could take a chill pill, acknowledge the reality of my situation, and calmly do a bit of online research to see what the potential risks are,…

  • Resetting My Life

    I am approaching the age of 27 in just a few weeks, and it’s hard to say how I feel about where I am in life right now. On the one hand, I can say that 2017 was a painful roller-coaster in many respects, but my mom has reassured me that I’ve grown up a lot and that those pains were, in fact, growing pains. On the other hand, after a year of growing pains, living my life way outside my comfort zone for perhaps the first time, all of a sudden I find myself back to square one: living at home in sunny southern California with my dear mother.…

  • A Happy Ending?

    On September 17, 2016, we had our first date. On June 21, 2017, he asked me to marry him and put a ring on my finger. On November 22, 2017, I returned the ring to him. And that was it. The one I thought I would spend the rest of my life with ended up being someone I’d share my life with for just over a year. I never thought this could happen to me. I’m not sure what to share about this experience, except that I have no regrets. I made a lot of mistakes, learned from them, and learned a lot about myself – what I really want and need…

  • The Effects of Maturity

    I’ve gotten to the point where I just don’t write on my blog anymore unless a friend keeps bugging me about it, eager to read what else I have to say. So, after my best friend’s persistent reminding, here’s another post, albeit a reluctant one. Perhaps it also helps that she has a Master’s in Journalism from Northwestern, so the fact that she wants to read what I write is quite flattering. More and more, I find myself hardcore struggling with my adulthood, at an age that I used to believe was a mature one, five, ten years ago. And here I was, thinking I could have a blog that…

  • What Men Need

    Yes, I feel the need to write a post on this topic so I’m willing to break out of my clean one-word blog post title format that I had established so nicely already. I’ve realized you can pretty much characterize men as a whole with certain defining characteristics, unless they are an anomaly. While I do not like politics or manipulation, and would hate to live in a way governed by such things, I’ve found that whether you like it or not, your relationship will probably improve if you learn certain general men-traits and learn to bear with them and suck it up and get used to it. Men need…