• This is Me Getting Out of My Comfort Zone (Vlog #5)

    The video is pretty self explanatory. In brief, my last breakup turned out to be a huge blessing in disguise, because my new beginning gave me the push I needed to take risks and do things I never would have done before. I realized that after doing things outside my comfort zone, I feel happy. Probably a good way to take care of mental health. Do you know of anyone who’s done drastic things after a breakup, like chopping off or dyeing their hair? It totally makes sense to me now. I feel that my body’s been like, hey, something’s different about me after the breakup.. so might as well…

  • Eminem Improved My Mental Health

    Yes, that’s what I said. Eminem. Marshall Mathers. Slim Shady. A rapper who I never paid too much attention to in the past because well, my choice in music growing up was a bit different. 😉 Fast forward 10+ years (can’t believe Eminem’s been around so long) and my life gets a little messy in my twenties, then comes recovery from trauma time. Enter antidepressants and therapist. Enter uninvited stigma. Then wholehearted acceptance. I am a Christian and have been one almost all my life. My faith has shaped a lot of who I am, and has been a source of comfort and strength at the most needed times. I…

  • How to Feel Motivated When You’re Feeling Down and Low Energy [PART 3 of 3]

    If you haven’t read Part 1 and Part 2 yet, reading those first may help give some more context before reading  Part 3. Or you can read this first, and if you don’t know what I’m talking about, you can always refer back to the first two parts of this mini “motivation series.” Part 1 stressed that motivation is not necessarily a feeling. To accomplish something, you can’t solely rely on how motivated you feel. Otherwise, chances are, your “momentum” will not last forever and you’ll easily want to quit. Part 2 stressed that on the other hand, sometimes it’s necessary to be a little more forgiving when someone doesn’t feel…

  • How to Feel Motivated When You’re Feeling Down and Low Energy [PART 2 of 3]

    In Part 1 I talked about the first “extreme” way of looking at the issue of lack of motivation. Extreme #1 is all the way on one side of the spectrum, basically saying that if you’re not motivated, suck it up and forget about your feelings. It’s not about the feeling of motivation. It’s about straight up self discipline. Just do it. So what does Part 2 look like? Now let’s go to the complete opposite side of the spectrum and discuss a much more “forgiving” way of looking at it. Extreme #2: Mental Health On the one hand, sure, self discipline is absolutely necessary to accomplish pretty much anything in…

  • How to Feel Motivated When You’re Feeling Down and Low Energy [PART 1 of 3]

    A couple nights ago one of my best friends sent me a text suggesting/asking that I write something about how to feel motivated when you’re down and low energy – the title of this post. “My current life problem,” she added. My response to her: “I’m definitely not an expert at that one.” Yup, not an expert at all, so I can’t solve your problems. However, I do have some perspective and can share what I’ve learned through my own experience and what I’ve observed of others. There are three parts to what I’ll be sharing, which are three different ways to look at this issue of motivation – two…

  • The Most Efficient + Effective Way to Communicate

    Speaking of efficiency… it’s getting late so I’m giving myself a time deadline to finish writing this post… The most efficient and effective way to communicate is really simple actually, but somehow it’s so hard for perhaps most people in the world. It certainly was an ongoing challenge for me for most of my life, but after some experiences I’ve learned a very important lesson about communication, aka how we talk to and express our thoughts and feelings to others. Important lesson learned: Just say exactly what you want. Forget about being a people pleaser, because there will always be some people who aren’t happy with what you say or…

  • Happiness is a Choice

    By the time I hit the “Publish” button it will probably already be the next day, but I still want to say, HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY! <3 (Update: I published this post well after midnight not because I’m a slow writer but because I was multitasking.. or maybe I should say, distracted. And yes I am vindicating myself.) Yes, I emphasize the word “happy” because there is no point in moping about not having a “valentine” on an arbitrary day of the year. There is so much to be happy about if you really think about it. Sure, you may be single or jobless or living in a small place or…

  • Decision Making: Weighing Out the Pros & Cons

    Last night I went to CVS to pick up my prescription medication only to find out that I got the pharmacy hours wrong. They were already closed, and I still needed to take my medication. I had two options. I could either get very anxious and worried about what my life would look like after not taking my medication for one or two days, and then freak out or have a mini panic attack when technically I was still doing just fine. OR, I could take a chill pill, acknowledge the reality of my situation, and calmly do a bit of online research to see what the potential risks are,…

  • A Mini Case of Sunday Blues

    Hey guys, so today I’m going to keep my post short because for the past two days my evening blogging sessions took way too much time and therefore my sleep schedule got all messed up, which made waking up really difficult. So I decided that won’t happen tonight. I am not a professional blogger at this point so I for sure do not have a beautifully organized monthly calendar with all my future blog posts planned out. Maybe one day that will happen. For now I’m just winging it. I’m not sure what happened, but when I was having lunch with my friends today I was having a great time…

  • Why There’s No Need to Worry About Anything

    Recently I’ve found myself telling certain loved ones not to worry, followed by a certain kind of reasoning behind these words of “wisdom.” Unfortunately this so-called wisdom of mine came out of lessons learned from my old lifestyle of worrying, making my life miserable and unbearable, and wasting a lot of my time being anxious and/or depressed when I could have been doing something much more productive or rewarding. But we live and we learn. Not worrying is one of the most helpful lessons I’ve learned in life, but I would say though, that it does require training yourself to have this kind of mindset, especially if being carefree has…