It’s the number of blog posts I’ve written and it’s also my age. I remember being a teenager and thinking that anyone who is 25 must be a mature adult, and then 25 rolled around. As I look around at my fellow millennials, I wonder how many of them actually feel like “real” adults.
I’ve been reading The Defining Decade by Meg Jay and I appreciate so much her smashing of common concepts that have seeped into today’s culture – that “30 is the new 20” and that in this generation we can view our twenties as a freebie decade, a buffer period during which we don’t need to live our lives too intentionally, since life really starts when we’re in our thirties.
Basically Meg Jay busts that concept and shows how much the millennials have been deceived, only to squander their twenties and realize they haven’t done much with their lives by the time they’re 30. Many end up feeling discouraged, depressed, jaded, lost.
I feel so blessed to have spent my twenties thus far in a way I do not regret, but I still hope and expect to only progress more in the last few years of this prime decade. I remember having a deep longing during my university years of being able to reach age 30 with the realization that I’ve had the necessary experiences, even difficult ones, that constituted me a person who can have a rich, positive impact on others who are struggling (or not struggling) to move forward in life.
Why by age 30? Maybe I sound too ambitious. But I don’t think it’s too much to ask for. Why reach a certain level of human fulfillment by the age of 30? Because then I would still have decades ahead of me to use my greatest capital – time – to reach the lives of so many people in need of shaping and direction. I cannot think of a better thing than to give myself to help and serve other human beings. But doing so calls for a person full of experiences.
I’ve come to realize that if I am to be where I want to be at age 30, that means my precious time has to be prioritized and used effectively. It also means that I need the adequate discipline to be as consistent with my growth as life allows it to be.
Speaking of discipline, I should go to bed in 15 minutes.